I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage – they’ve experienced pain and bought jewelry. — Rita Rudner

God created marriage to strip away our flesh and make us more like Jesus. If we bail on marriage to get away from this pain, however, we actually cause more of it.

Lie 6: The kids will be better if we divorce.

Several studies have proven the devastating effects divorce has on children. There is a negative impact on their emotions, behavior patterns, compliance with rules, and self-image, to name a few. The truth is the kids will be worse off if you divorce. Instead of seeing a couple give up on each other, it is far better that children see parents who:

  • Focus on Christ — Kids need to see how Christ is conforming their parents to Himself.
  • Seek outside help — Kids need to know that it’s okay not to know all the answers. They need to see parents seeking out and confiding in others.
  • Crucify their flesh — Kids need to see adults look to others with compassion.
  • Break old patterns — Kids need a role model that removes their bad habits and focuses on Jesus.
  • Forgive forever — Kids need to see parents who forgive and are willing to work on past hurts.
  • Trust in Christ — Kids need to learn that Christ is the only one who always provides and always supports us.

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up … A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

Kids need to live in a home where both parents work through the hardship of marriage together, exemplifying that while marriage is hard, it’s so very worth the commitment!

God, for the good of my kids and everyone around me, I place myself in Your hands. Show me how I can be a better spiritual leader to them by walking in Your Spirit today. Amen.

Taken from Pete’s 365-day devotional book Experiencing LIFE Today.