A while back I read a tweet from a teenager that said:
“My love life will never be satisfactory until someone runs through an airport to stop me getting on a flight.”
That’s what I’d call a springtime sentiment. And it makes me want to whisper to her, “But seasons change, and the dog days of summer are coming!”
Many relationships get into trouble over time because one partner or both are trying desperately to create or recreate the feelings of springtime love. After all, springtime love is exciting. It makes you feel young again.
But as I said, the heat of summer is coming and puts love to the test. In short, springtime love doesn’t last.
That’s because those first flush, intense emotions are caused by adrenaline (and a barrage of other hormones) as we feel something for the first time. These experiences, by definition, simply cannot endure.
Yet some couples mistakenly believe springtime feelings are meant to go on and on. As a result, when one individual no longer produces butterfly feelings and whimsy, the other either leaves or checks out emotionally.
Here’s the bottom line: Springtime feelings are fleeting. And if you build your relationship on them, you’ll lack a solid and lasting foundation—and your relationship is bound to falter and leave you unfulfilled.
So what can you do?
The answer is to learn from—and live out—the biblical definition of love. Biblical love is much more than a feeling, and it is certainly not fleeting!
Whether you’re married or single, you can learn a lot from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, which tells us that real love is actively demonstrated to another person...
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (NIV)
Yes, biblical love is a demonstration. And nothing wakes a dormant relationship like a demonstration of love—true love—that flows from God, through us, to another.
It’s not the running-through-the-airport, Hollywood-romance, springtime kind of love. It’s so much better than that—and it’s always available to you through Jesus.
So come to Him, dig deep into His Word, and build on the foundation of His truth—and then, whether you’re single or married, you’ll experience Life in all your relationships as never before as you learn to love God’s way!