No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main. —John Donne
People who feel they have strong marriages are 140% more likely to be in a healthy small group than those who are struggling with their marriage. That’s a fact. Those who are connected with others tend to be stronger than those of us who are in isolation. But when things get rough in relationships, do you go with the truth or the lie?
Lie number 4: You two can handle this on your own. Satan‘s strategy is to divide and conquer. He wants you to think that you are the only ones going through this stuff (Ha!). He wants you to feel more embarrassed than you feel motivated to get help. He wants you to avoid the people who speak truth and love into your life. He wants you to disobey one of the foundational principles in Scripture:
Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. (Hebrews 10:23-25)
You need that. I need that. We need that. It’s a lie to think otherwise. It’s called loving biblical community.
What’s going on in your key relationships? What’s up in your marriage? Are you trying to handle it on your own? If you want to go it alone, I suppose you can try, but why? Maybe it’s time to flush some pride and ego and get connected like God designed it?
God, I accept that I am not an island. I need You. I need what You provide through others when things are tough. I confess my prideful, independent flesh patterns. Make me willing to accept Your grace, wisdom, and support through others. Show me whom You want me to connect with today. Amen.